What the hell is a death chat? (and why do I run them)

A Death Chat is a group directed discussion of death with no agenda, objectives or themes.

It is a discussion group rather than a grief support or counselling session.

Death Chats are always offered:

– On a not-for-profit basis

– In an accessible, respectful and confidential space with no intention of leading people to any conclusion, product or course of action.”

So for clarity, a Death Chat is not a therapy group, a professional bereavement support or a grief support resource.

If you are experiencing acute grief from a recent bereavement  please get in touch with me. I have resources to share and we can chat about the Death Chat – what it is, what it isn’t.

You may be holding old grief and this may be stirred during conversations in your group.

Every effort is made to ensure it is a safe space, but it is essentially our community coming together in group(s) to talk and to listen.

In order to make the space safe for all suicidal ideation in the manner of glorification and promotion will not be tolerated. If you identify as needing to discuss this  please get in touch with me through PM before the meeting. I have resources for you so that you may have these types of conversations with professionals.

There are no staff and no professionals in their work capacity at the event.

Every group will be different, and, if you come more than once, your experiences will vary.

My sincere request is that as a participant, you come with the intention to be accepting of others and to listen actively, with no need to ‘fix’ anything or give advice. Often just telling your story/sharing your fears or experiences can reveal what may feel like a ‘solution’, simply as a result of the telling.

You’ll be welcome to speak if you want to, in the group. Each person’s story is their own ~ stories don’t need to link together.

I also request that you try to speak from your direct, first-hand experiences, rather than just speaking about theory or concepts from things you may have read (although some of this is inevitable and can be helpful too.)

There is no cost.

There is no formal structure: it will be a confidential space, in which you’ll be invited to chat within the group about any issues concerning you around death, dying, funerals, memorials, end of life .…We’ll be there to hear each other’s stories, fears, concerns, and anything we can offer each other.

Participants may just be curious about the uncertainty that surrounds death and dying, they may have suffered bereavements, or they may have had a diagnosis and know they are in their own end of life phase. There may be other reasons for coming too.

All are welcome.

There’ll be no specific topics, nowhere to get to, no set questions as, when it comes to death, we all seem to have plenty to discuss already.

You will be responsible for making sure that everyone has a fair chance to be heard.

Death Chat gives us the permission we often don’t experience in day to day life to talk about the one thing that is certainly going to affect us all.

Facing death and talking about it can help us to embrace life more fully and more satanically.

If your group would like to set up a virtual Satanic Death Chat please let me know I would be happy to virtually assist in the facilitation of the group.

I am registered with Death Café happy to facilitate a group that meets your needs.

Sin-cerely yours,


1 thought on “What the hell is a death chat? (and why do I run them)”

  1. Death is definitely something many (including myself) are very fearful of and a forum to discuss this stressful topic in the context of a healthy discussion to alleviate anxiety surrounding this inevitable end to all lives at some point sounds like such a wonderful concept. I have never before heard of such a thing but now that I have I hope that it becomes a normal and widespread practice.

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